When Women are Monsters
Sometimes, I hate being a girl. Okay, let’s rephrase that to be more honest- most of the time I hate being a girl. Sure, I love shopping and putting on makeup, but overall it seems that life would be easier to be a guy. There are always certain moments in my life that make this particularly obvious, like when I watch a birthing scene in a movie, when I see the price tag on bras at the mall, and when cattiness ensues. Today’s post is going to focus on the latter, particularly women being insecure and envious of other women.
I’m one of those girls who doesn’t have a problem telling another that she is pretty. When my friend gets a raise at work , I congratulate her. When a classmate dyed her hair, I would tell her how amazing she looks. When a blogger posts something I enjoy reading, I tell her how much I enjoyed it. I like giving out compliments when people deserve them.
But I find that the same doesn’t always happen for me in return. If I curl my hair for a night out, I have other girls asking me why I got so “dolled up”. Um, I just used a curling iron and it only took 10 minutes, if that’s your definitely of “dolled up”, then I guess I’m Barbie. When I got into a new relationship with my current boyfriend (after ending a previous one that ended particularly badly), I noticed a few female friends didn’t say a word to me about it. No “congrats” text, no silly Facebook “like”, not even an acknowledgement in public from some of our mutual friends. What is up with that?
It seems that for some women, it’s hard to accept that others are better than them at something. Anyone who is prettier or thinner than them is shunned and called names. The person who is dating their old crush is seen as the devil. The girl who gets that coveted internship spot is seen as an undeserving suck-up. The list goes on. For future reference, let’s call these women “monsters”, in honor of jealousy- which is known as the “green-eyed monster”.
These monsters cannot genuinely be happy or supportive of other females because to them, life is a competition. Anyone who is better than them in any way is seen as a threat, when in reality, they should see them as fellow strong women. They are always about wearing the most outrageous outfit to stand out in a crowd, trying to be friends with the highest number of guys to seem popular, and trying their hardest to be the center of attention at all times. These monsters aren’t just the 17-year-olds that “Mean Girls” was based off of, they are grown-ass women in their 20’s and 30’s who still haven’t matured.
It’s hard to get to the root of their problems, but according to everything I’ve read, seen and experienced myself, it seems to be their insecurity. A woman who is confident enough in herself won’t need to compare herself to others and try to “win” this competition called life. They will acknowledge other’s successes and praise those who do succeed. They will compliment others genuinely and as necessary. It’s this insecurity that they harbor that makes them act and think this way, which ultimately just hurts us women who do succeed occasionally.
If I had a nickel for every time another woman criticized my naturally-thin weight, I’d be a millionaire (yes, I do eat sandwiches and no, you don’t need to tell me to go eat one). If I really was the crazy over-achiever everyone thought I was in high school, I wouldn’t be living at home and watching how I spend my money. But women perceive others in these crazy ways because they can- and they choose to.
So I guess my point is, WHY are women like this? Is it just me who deals with these “monsters” often in their life? And what do you do about it? I’d love to hear your stories, opinions and advice.
I hate that competition mentality! Life is too short for cattiness and all that comes with it.
So true Ashley!
I know exactly how you feel, but you’ve hit the nail on the head. It’s insecurity, and sadly most women are. Back-handed compliments are their way of jabbing you and trying to get a rise out of you, simply because they are envious. In a way it’s flattering, but it’s also very frustrating.
Just remember to hold your head high and continue to compliment others and feel happy for others when they are… because that means you’re happy with yourself 🙂
Back-handed compliments- ugh! I get those all the time. “OMG you’re so skinny” is never a good thing when they say it- it’s always followed by “eat a sandwich” or something.
Thanks for the advice! Luckily for me I know that I have a lot going for me, so that helps. 🙂
It is 100% insecurity! It’s hard not to let it get to you, but it’s really more about them and their own issues. I unfortunately had a very good friend who was like this, and after years (and I mean yeeears) of putting up with it and constantly being made to feel like crap, many discussions about it with her but no changes, I had to distance myself from the friendship. And honestly, I have never been happier.
Isn’t it funny how sometimes it’s our FRIENDS who do it?! I’ve distanced myself from plenty of these nasty girls, but some just like to stick around- even on the internet. Glad to know I’m not alone!
Amen sista! I can’t understand why girls can be so mean to others. I agree with Niki, it’s definitely insecurity, but that doesn’t excuse it at all. I just focus on having positive and happy people surround me!
That’s what I’m trying. I’m glad you feel the same way Ashley!
You are so right that it stems from their own insecurities, which is turn makes them jealous. It can become exhausting trying to be friends with someone like that and sometimes you’re better off ending the friendship.
It’s so exhausting when they are your friend but even worse when they AREN’T and they just won’t go away!
I think you’ve hit the nail on the head Rach! I agree with those below but I think the main factor here is jealousy and insecurity. I often get frustrated but I’ve learned to just ignore it or walk away and then vent later when I get home. (I’m still working on the whole don’t let it bother you part)
haha I’m working on that part, too! In the end, I know I’m the better person, but it still hurts my feelings sometimes!
I hear ya. I honestly try to treat people as I would like to be treated, but it just does not work that way with a lot of people. Sometimes I think my expectations are just too high. I really don’t understand why women and girls have to be so catty either, but I was sickened to see that side of myself a few years ago and I never knew I had it in me. I guess it happens to the best of us.
I totally agree with this post, especially about the lack of return compliments. I am genuine and I wish people (both in the real and blogging worlds) were in return!
Yes- I see this a lot in the blogging world, too!
Great post, Rachel! I totally agree with you. Some people are just constantly competing, and usually I notice it socially where I live (with friends, invites to parties, etc etc). It’s NUTS and can be so frustrating to be around. I usually just try to focus on my individual relationships and not get wrapped up in the nonsense. I don’t really get why people are so jealous sometimes, but it’s an insecurity and I feel sorry for them! Great post!!
Thanks Julie! It happens socially SO often, I think that fits so many of the examples I mentioned (and some I didn’t). At the end of the day, I’d rather be home alone than at a party with people who will just put me down and ignore me.
ohmygoodness i LOVE this post!!! nothing more annoying than a woman being mean to another one just because maybe she’s prettier or smarter. i always remind myself that jealousy and competition of others will get you no where in life and you’ll lose sight of yourself! LOVE this girl!
That’s so true! Thanks for the sweet compliments on the post! There will always be someone thinner, prettier, smarter… I don’t know why some girls cant accept that.
Women are totally catty! And it’s exhausting dealing with “monsters”. I try to only surround myself with people who love and appreciate me for me and who only lift me up. But you are right, it’s insecurity and jealousy.
All throughout high school, my best friend was the girl who could not be happy for anyone ever. It was so strange. She was fun, and she definitely cared about me, but she never complimented me or told me anything about me she liked. Which maybe makes me sound needy when I type it out like that, but I don’t know… I love complimenting women! I love letting a woman know when her jeans fit her well, when she’s having a great hair day, when I think she’s inspirational. It’s just natural to me to want to let people know when I observe good things about them, or to be happy when something good happens to them.
But you’re so right, that it boils down to jealousy. A couple of years after high school, my best friend broke down one day and told me that she was jealous of me all through high school, jealous of my clothes so she never complimented them, jealous of my friends and the guys I would meet so she would never be happy for me in those situations. She even said that while I was a little overweight in high school, she tried hard to make me comfortable with my weight just so that I wouldn’t try to lose any more, because she felt like being skinnier than me was the only thing she had on me. I’m not kidding you, she literally said those words to me! I just don’t get it. I get jealous of other girls, but it really just ends there. I wish I had something they had or could be something they are, but then I move on. So I feel you with this post today! I guess maybe insecurity takes over in a really ugly way and makes girls feel like it’s every woman for themselves, and that everything is a contest. 🙁
Thanks so much for writing this! I’ve had close friends who acted like that as well- one even told me at the beginning of our friendship she hated me and was jealous of everything. But then she realized that I was a good person and she was letting stupid things get in the way. Her self confidence and security in herself is what helped us stay friends to this day! I’m glad I’m not alone- your comment has really helped!
Ahh this post couldn’t have come at a better time! I don’t know what it is… honestly ever since graduating college I feel like even my friends are all about who’s making the most money, taking the most trips, being the most successful, having the best boyfriend, wedding, husband… you know where I’m going with this. Anyway, its like what happened to the carefree us freshman year just having fun and enjoying each other’s company. There is something weird about women because although I hate to admit it sometimes that green jealous monster creeps in and I have to knock myself out of it. I also congratulate people and compliment them but feel like a lot of my life have heard “Why are you so dressed up” and I’ve been called a LOT of things… a whore, slut, fat, ugly, thin (yes I know from fat to thin funny how certain people perceive you), etc. etc. It is not fun to deal with, but the best thing I have ever done is to just let go and not let these things bother me. Focusing on the people who love and care about me (even if they might poke fun at me every once in awhile) is much better than me trying to figure out why women can be so horrible and catty or why they would do/say something like that.
That’s my best advice… I know it is hard because it is so different from you… but you will always be a better person for just letting it go! 🙂
I’m so glad this post came at a great time, but so sorry it happens to you as well! College was when this started to get bad for me as well! There’s something about that time period I suppose. Im taking your advice and just working on letting it go. Most of thesemonsters aren’t friends anymore, but “friends of friends” or acquaintances, which sometimes cannot be ignored. 🙂
I agree with you that this behavior stems from insecurity. At this point in my life (23), I don’t expect praise anymore but it would be nice to hear it once in a while. However, I’ve gotten this attitude from both men and women!
What bothers me the most is when a woman currently has it all but is too insecure to appreciate it. During my senior year of college, I was so close to cutting off a friend. She had a boyfriend, a high gpa, and a job lined up. I was happy for her, but she would always hit me with low blows and try to embarrass me in public. Don’t worry. It always backfired, which made me realize everyone else in our social circle wasn’t stupid enough to be fooled.
In retrospect, I believe it’s because I wasn’t afraid of being myself and although I’m not a sweetheart, people still liked me more than her. So it bothered her that “a bitch like me” was more likeable than someone like her. Ouch. Good thing I can see her insecurity and don’t take offense to it, because I pity people like that. Unless they change their attitude on life, they’ll never be happy and will constantly spew negativity into the world.
I’m the same age (almost 24!) and I think it’s crazy it still happens- high school was years ago! I’m sorry to hear about your “friend”- she clearly was not happy with herself and took it out on you by making you feel badly. The truth is, usually people can see her behavior. They may not come out and say it, but deep down they know she is insecure and you are the better person!
Great comment, thank you so much!
I totally know what you’re saying here, girl. I’ve dealt with people like this my entire life, and I put up with them because I thought that that’s just the way people were. But as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that I’m just as good as the people I surround myself with. So I choose to only associate with people who bring me up instead of put me down. When I got my job at Bella, there were people who didn’t offer congratulations and who scoffed and claimed that I didn’t deserve it. And then there were people who called me, offered me their congratulations and told me how much I did deserve it because of how I worked my ass off in school. Guess who I keep around?
My best advice is to not worry about why they act the way they do. The best way to deal with the monsters is to just keep smiling and living your life. The only person you should be in competition with is yourself. Surround yourself with the people who are positive influences in your life, and recognize the ones who aren’t. I’ve done this, and I’m much, much happier for it.
I’ve always put up with it too- I thought I was just being too picky with my friends or overly-sensitive! I’ve cut my friends list in half because of this, and it sucks. I also miss tons of social gatherings and whatnot because I simply want to avoid these nasty women.
I work my ass off too- the # of congrats I got on my job now (and my relationship) I couldn’t even count on my hand. People are jealous and therefore are tight-lipped.
They say living well is the best revenge- you’re so right! 🙂
Im sorry this is happening to you! You seem like a really great person! Unfortunately there are more catty women then nice ones. But dont let it get to you (so helpful i know), all your success is deserved, you are gorgeous, and there are plenty of other people who will appreciate what you bring to the table even if these women dont.
Aw thank you Rach!
I hate to say it, but there will always be women who are “monsters.” I’m in my late 30’s & I still know some “monsters.” I get bugged by them and their rude ways, but then try to remind myself that they have yet to find happiness in themselves or their own lives, so really I feel bad for those women. Until a woman can be happy in her own skin, she will probably continue to be rude or mean. Hang in there!! There are plenty of confident and kind women out there that you can be friends with that will love you and cheer you on & be happy for you & not afraid to dish out compliments! Seek out girls like that & you’ll find your lifelong friends:) You are one of the prettiest girls I’ve ever seen in my life, honestly…so I’m sure a lot of other girls are just intimidated by you. Love you & hope all of this will get better for you.
Amy, thank you for your sweet comment! You completely made my day! I’m sad to hear this continues even in your 30s- not looking forward to that! Your words are spot-on: if someone is happy with themselves, they can be happy for others. If they act rude or unsupportive of a new relationship, job or friendship, then they clearly aren’t happy.
<3 you for the comment and your always-kind words!
So sorry your dealing with all of this! But don’t let it bother you, people can behave that way but it doesn’t have to effect your life! You should be proud of everything you’re doing (are) and seem like a great person!
Thanks! I am definitely trying!
Wow, I could go on and on about this topic, but I’ll try to keep it brief to save you boredom. Very well written btw. I have come across women like this through all stages of my life. We are the same in that I ALWAYS give compliments to others, and I genuinely feel happy for them. Of course, I’m often jealous too, but I never let that get in the way of my happiness for them. I am convinced that their negative and mean actions are out of their jealousy and insecurity. I’ve had several friends that behaved the way your friends do and I’ve completely cut them out of my life.
The worst story I have is while in University I was in a class with one of my “best” friends (from highschool) where we had to give a peer review to the professor. She actually went behind my back and told the professor that I did not help at all with our group assignment and I deserved to fail it. I found this out because my professor called me in because he didn’t believe it was true. I was a straight A student and always worked my butt off. Thankfully, the prof believed me and gave me the A that I deserved. I was devastated and immediately confronted my “friend”. Her response was “Well, I never thought you would find out!” Can you believe that! She never admitted to the reason for her lying but I know it was because she was always jealous that good grades came easily to me, and she wanted to beat me for once. That was the last day I ever spoke to her.
Anyways, you are a stunning, smart, sweet woman who should never let these crazy women affect her.
It wouldn’t bother me at all- I love venting! (seriously, e-mail me!) Getting jealous of others is normal, but not acting upon it and going crazy is how to deal with it, and these women can’t do that apparently.
Yikes! That story sounds awful. It almost sounds like something off of a TV show, it’s so sad that you went through that in real life!
Thank you so much for your sweet words- you rock!
It really sucks when you feel like this, but you just have to rise above it all!
Great post Rachel! Luckily I don’t have many of these “monster” women in my life but there are a few. I’m actually working on remembering to compliment others in person – I’ll think something is great in my head but never actually voice it. As women we need to remember to help each other rise up rather than pushing one another down.
Thank you Kristina! You are so right!
When I was little, my mom always told me that there is always someone better and someone not as good at each thing you do, so be happy with where you are. I think a lot of mothers must leave this part out of growing up. What to do about these monsters, just ignore it. Its the best thing you can do for yourself and for them. They are doing it just to hurt you, so if you don’t react maybe you will send the message that it doesn’t bother you.
That’s so true! There will always be someone who is prettier, thinner, richer.. .etc. If I hated everyone who was prettier or richer than me, well I’d hate a lot of people! Girls need to learn how to love themselves and then they can love others.
Not reacting is a great idea. They say living well is the best revenge, right!?
Don’t sweat it, girl. All of us have them in our lives. The key is to kill them with kindness, which it seems like you do! Don’t let it upset you, like you said, it normally stems from their own problems. I think it’s natural for someone to be jealous of another woman comfortable in her own skin when they have trouble with it.
Glad I’m not alone (although I’m not happy it happens to you as well!) I definitely do try to be kind- I’m nice to everyone- but sometimes the kindness (whether it’s a “hi” or a nice comment) is ignored. THAT’S when you know you’re dealing with a crazy woman 😛 Thanks for your comment Erin!
These “monsters” really make all women look bad! I don’t understand why some women are like this. I love complementing others, especially because I know how good it can make someone feel! I bet if every woman started complementing and congratulating other women, then jealously and insecurity would be significantly lessened, which would lead to less cattiness, and the world would be a better place! haha
Ugh you’re right! We get a bad reputation solely because of the crazies!
I swear all I could say reading this post is “PREACH!” Without disclosing my mothers age, it appears these behaviors unfortunately extend past the twenties-thirties range…which terrifies me. I don’t understand how so many women can carry on this (dramatic) behavior for so long! I too genuinely compliment someone’s shoes or makeup, not to undermine them, but because I really like whatever they may be wearing etc. Some women are a rare species, in and of themselves.
It took me awhile to understand it, but I had friends that were the epitome of these behaviors. Now when I look back on it, I can see how highly insecure they were and why they were that way. I feel bad for them but am glad to have their negativity out of my life.
John always tells me he is so glad he isn’t a girl, and this is one of the reasons! It didn’t take too long (I think my first terrible female experiences started in 4th grade) for me to learn about these types of girls/women and even now I still encounter them. I agree a lot with Maria’s comment from earlier, the best way I deal with this is to just cut those people out of my life. I treat others with kindness and offer my sincere congratulations/compliments when I feel they are deserved. I expect others to treat me with that same respect and to put forth just as much effort into our friendship as I do, but unfortunately not everyone thinks that way. In my opinion, the people worth keeping around in your life are the people who can share in all your experiences and be there for you, whether it’s for something good or bad. Anyone who chooses to be jealous and catty over being proud of you for an accomplishment just isn’t worth it. It may mean you end up with significantly less friends, but at least you know the ones you DO have are of great quality. 🙂 I only have a few good girl friends, but I know they will stick with me through anything and that’s what matters to me. Sorry you are dealing with these monster ladies!
haha I wish I was a dude so I didn’t have to deal with that stuff- John is right! You’re so right- I’d rather have a handful of supportive friends than a bunch of fake ones.
Don’t worry dear, you are not the only one who has to deal with those “monsters”! I have several “girlfriends” who are like that all the time. It can be really hurtful sometimes.., but we need to be who we are and not let them change us in any way! Great post! Load of love! <33
Thanks Andrea <3
Maybe you are spending time with the wrong people? My female friends and I do not treat each other this way. Though I do have days when I do not like being female. Though mainly for physical reasons like not feeling well or having to think twice walking home after dark. And yes women take a lot of time with their looks.But could you imagine if men took that much time with their looks–we would be throwing ourselves at them! Ha!
Sometimes they aren’t my friends- they are just friends of friends or people that I cannot avoid. That is the hard part. Thanks for your comment ali!
I agree with what you’ve said, but I also think that sometimes certain girls don’t get as much recognition because people think that they are probably already getting it elsewhere or they are confident as is; if that makes sense. For example you might not get complimented on your hair as often, because you always look pretty. It’s almost become an expected standard. But, whoever said, “why so dolled up” just needs to learn how to give an appropriate compliment lol
That’s very true, actually! That you for the sweet compliment on my hair 🙂
Thank you!!! You have put into words something that has been buzzing around in my head for the last few months, but that I couldn’t quite articulate – I like the way you think!
I’m glad you can relate! I read your mind 😉
Oh man, women can be pretty awful sometimes 🙁 As women we need to stick together – cooperate and support each other rather than being in a constant competition. Hopefully we will get it together soon!
Totally and completely understand how you feel. I always say the same thing. I have no problem telling others they look pretty or have amazing style. Jealousy is the catalyst of most mean girl comments. I don’t understand why women have to bash each other. And most of the time, it’s behind each other’s backs. If you have something to say then say it. Seriously? We can all achieve success. Not just a few of us! I’ve dealt with this all my life. That is why I have a select few really close friends. Some people just need to get over themselves and smile. Seriously! lol
I’m glad I’m not alone! Jealousy is the devil, isn’t it? You are so right, Giovanna and you have a great attitude about it.
First of all, kuddos for such an honest post. I totally agree that sometimes women can be downright mean. It’s all derived out of jealousy, and it’s very unfortunate. Just try to rise above it as much as possible and focus on the people who are your real friends/truly support you!
Thanks! I am taking your advice to heart Emily!
I’ve never been able to wrap my head around that sort of woman, which is probably why I don’t surround myself with them…or feed off their negative energy if I encounter them. I don’t even know you personally, but from what I’ve gathered just from reading LU…you’re intelligent, driven, and beautiful so don’t let anyone ever let you think different. Keep up the great work!:) KristinP.S. I owe you an answer on that WP cache plugin! At first it appeared to be working, but then my site reverted back to its slow load time. I had a programmer friend do a couple of things that may have helped. We’ll see over time!
Aw thank you so much Kristin! I’m very impressed at how you handle it yourself- you go girl! And I’m sorry the plug-in didn’t work as well for you. I know that sizing down your images might help with the loading time, too!
My mom alway says, they’re just jealous you’re pretty. So Rach, they’re just jealous, you’re pretty 🙂
Aw thanks Courtney! I’m sure you get it all the time too!
Excellent and interesting post. I agree, it would be much easier as a guy (especially the 5 minute shower and go in the morning!) I admit, sometimes I get jealous of a girl and a little more bitchy than I should. I don’t know why. But its something that I’m working on. We need to encourage positivity!
Thank you AJ!
This post was so well written. I think the bitchiness never truly goes away. There are women out there in their 50’s, 60’s still belittling others. I agree it has something to do with our natural desire to be better than one another, but I also find the phenomenon to be a cultural one too. There are certain groups of women more prone to being ‘monsters’ than others. Lately I’ve found that men are equally prone to being monsters. While with women it’s usually appearance related, I’ve found with men it’s usually related to money. Interesting topic. And why do so many women think ‘telling it as it is’ is such an honorable trait when most of the time the very same women speak nothing but unkind words.
Thanks so much Jenee! You’re right- even my mom tells me she still encounters mean girls at work and she’s well out of her 20’s. You’re right about the men/money thing, too. They see that as a competition with each other- and with females. God forbid the woman makes more money 😛
Awwwwww I dont blame you Rachel……women can really be awful in that dept. Just thank God that you are NOT one of them. Continue being yourself, you are one of the nicest & prettiest bloggers around!! More power!!!
I am glad I’m not one of them! I just try to tell myself that not everyone will like me, and oh well! Thank you so much for your sweet comments 🙂
I think everyone knows one or two of these type people in their lives, and honestly I feel badly for them. You know someone has to be truly miserable inside when they can’t be happy for others, especially their so-called “friends”! I’m still no expert in dealing with people like this, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve found it easier to ignore negativity and to surround myself with people who are like-minded.
That’s so true- they obviously hate themselves so much they have to hate me instead. I’m hoping it goes away the older I get- thanks!
I can’t believe I missed this post yesterday. Halfway through this I said (out loud) “Wait this is amazing…” Haha! Because you are so on point. I have been lucky to be around a lot of supportive people in my life. My best friends from high school are the most amazing bunch of girls. But every once in a while, a little monster creeps into my life and I’m always floored. Seriously, ask my mom. I can never understand how there are women who don’t raise up other women and support them, especially when good things happen. Even when I started my blog, I had one friend would NOT congratulate me or discuss it with me. I heard from other friends that she was annoyed by the attention I was getting. Like 20 people reading my blabber on the internet? Okay…
I always surround myself by good positive people and when someone gets a little too catty for me, well I just cut them out for a little while haha! Oops. Keep your head up! Even though it sucks, it means you are doing something right, and they are insecure that they won’t achieve as much. xo
haha thanks Casey, I’m glad you enjoyed it! Women are just crazy. My blog has also gotten a lot of nasty comments from friends and people who think I love myself or I’m trying to be famous or whatever. They should be happy people read my blog and that it’s a success. I will keep my head up- thanks for your advice!
I’ve never understood this either, and I’m convinced this is why feminism hasn’t completely succeeded. We’re too busy judging each other, and that holds us back.
One of my close friends won an prestigious award related to her profession (a female dominated field). Instead of celebrating, she was trying to keep it quiet because of the backlash she was getting from her coworkers. I was mortified to hear that. Why do so many women feel that someone else’s success is our own failure? Furthermore, why can’t women find the strength of character to be happy for someone who has, or has achieved something we want?
So true Danielle! Those questions are unanswered, and I wish I could figure out why as well!
What a great article! I never ever imagined that life would be like this when I was young. Working for 30+ years, I see it in the workplace, coming from a large family, I see it amongst my cousins, in-laws and listen to my friends that have sisters. It tears people apart and the oneupmanship and competition is pathetic. My recently widowed mother is now on the receiving end of the exclusion because she is possibly seen as a threat for their husbands? If women think they have come a long way – think again. Especially with social media, the younger generation has it even harder with the selfies and constant exposure to pop culture. Mothers stop the competition and raise your daughters to be kind, caring and supportive to each other. Nobody wins the competition! We are all unique and need to appreciate one another. Amen.
Rachel … I SO feel your pain! I know I’m late to the discussion about the “MONSTERS” we all wish were still underneath our beds, but it’s unfortunate that we have to deal with women that I refer to as pure “EVIL” … I worked for a fairly small company for just under 15 years. I absolutely loved my job and thought that I would be there until I retired. I was the oldest out of 6 women in my department (customer service). I am proud to say that I am just like you … I’m the first one to pay someone a compliment, I was forever giving things to my employees and their children, I never caused waves and always tried to stay far away from the drama. It was hard to stay away from the drama because the girls in my department continued to put me right in the middle of it! I was 48 years old at the time, with two beautiful daughters, both graduates of Florida State University, and a husband of 23 years. I guess it boiled down to jealousy? Why, I don’t know? Maybe because I made very good money and I had my act together? To be honest with you, I really don’t know.
There were two women that really had it out for me! I literally fought to keep my job for the last 4 years that I was employed there. I eventually lost the battle in 2012. At the end, it was pure torture! I endured emotional & verbal abuse every single day. They finally convinced my one boss, who was like a father to me, that it was time to eliminate my position because I was not worth keeping. Now mind you, I did not have one negative thing noted in my employee file EVER! I received nothing but praise from my customers. My boss gave me an ultimatum, which happen to come right in the middle of my divorce … that’s right! My husband of 23 years, who I loved with every inch of my being & still do, decided that there had to be another woman out there that could make him happier than he was with me. These women affected me to the point that I would go home and cry almost every night. In the end I know that my husband just couldn’t understand that I was fighting to keep my job for the sake of our family.
So, I sit here today alone, still unemployed and with no income. I have lost everything … my job that I gave my heart and soul to, my beautiful home, my credit, my health insurance … everything right down to my friends and family! And I owe it all to two VERY EVIL women who got so much joy out of watching my entire life fall apart, one piece at a time!
I want to thank all the women who posted a comment about this subject. I thank you all for giving me hope that there is still good left in this world. Rachel … you are BEAUTIFUL!! And I hope that you know that! Keep your chin up and never let another MONSTER hurt you again! Those of us with a conscious and a big heart need to learn how to walk the other way! Take care of yourself … Gina