I rarely watch MTV (mainly because it’s all about pregnant teenagers, they don’t play a lot of music, and I can’t stay up past 10 pm), but a Monday night of flipping through channels a few months ago led me to this discovery. This new series on MTV, “Catfish: The TV Series” is based upon the documentary of the same name.
“Catfish: The Movie” is a documentary about a 20-something male (Nev) and the romantic relationship he builds with a woman through Facebook. Obviously, the woman turns out to be very different than who he thought. After the success of the documentary, Nev found himself receiving tons of e-mails of people who went through the same situation. Nev’s role on the show is to meet with the e-mailer, do research on their online significant other, and then bring the two together to meet face-to-face.
What immediately captured my attention about this show was how blind people can be when in love. We’ve all been there before- we fall for the guy who we think is nice but he ends up breaking our heart, blah blah. But no, this is different. These people are so in love with this person online that they don’t even think twice that they could be a fake. “Oh, those modeling photos are really theirs”, “Well we don’t Skype because he doesn’t have a webcam”, and “No, I never thought to Google their name before” are all popular lines we here. Seriously people? I Google EVERYTHING and EVERYONE. When someone comments on my blog, when I’m applying for a job or when I get an e-mail from a company, I Google them.
Maybe I’m just a bit of a skeptic, but if I met someone online who I connected with, the first thing I would do is Google them. I would encourage a phone call, a webcam date (to see if they are really who they say they are), etc. Hell- I’d probably even make them hold up a sign that says my name on it just so I know that they are real. No, I’m not crazy. Maybe I’m smarter than the average Joe, or maybe I’m just more cynical about people, but either way- I feel like I could never fall for this Catfish trick.
On the flip side, my mind is also blown by the people on the other end of the spectrum. These “Catfishers” who choose a fake photo, a fake name, and an entirely fake persona just to meet other people. I understand that it can be hard to meet people if you’re shy or that maybe you’re worried that no one would like you because of your weight, but do you think that this person will magically love you after they find out you’ve been manically lying to them? There’s no trust there- the relationship has essentially been a lie- and no relationship (friendship or romantic) can be successful without trust. Also, where the hell do these people find the time to live this entirely different life on Facebook? I barely have time to blog, let alone keep track of another secret life.
Have you checked out this documentary or show yet? If not, you can read more about it here (spoiler alert!) or watch the documentary on DVD and the show on MTV. Prepare to become addicted!