I once read somewhere that people are considered to be the most attractive when they have symmetrical faces. In fact, this theory is proven and researched here, here and here. Most people would agree with this statement- if someone’s left eye was an inch lower than their right, they most likely wouldn’t be picked first at the modeling agency. That silly “fact” that has been proven by “studies” really struck a chord with me. It made me realize that I don’t have a symmetrical face.
I’ve always been self-conscious about having my photo taken and my appearance- I think most of us women have at some point in our life. What’s funny is that back in middle school and high school when I rarely wore makeup or did my hair- I wasn’t as worried about my looks. I’ve noticed that as I’ve gotten older, my looks have become more important to me. And I’ve seen how what you look like can both hurt and help you in life.
Anyway, back to the symmetrical thing. When I smile, the one side of my face crinkles up a little more than the other. This means one eye appears smaller, the edge of my mouth goes up a little higher, and I won’t ever have a perfect, horizontal glamour shot. When I take photos, I usually try to tilt my head a little so I’m not facing the camera straight-on, since that’s when my non-symmetric face sticks out more.
When I waitressed and worked in a deli, I served hundreds of customers each day, and at least one or twice a week someone would tell me I have a nice smile (or that I looked like Julia Roberts). It’s one of the things I do miss about working in customer service, since those kind words made my day.
The funny part about this whole thing is, not many other people notice. I’ve complained and rolled my eyes at photos of myself for years, only to have friends and strangers tell me they don’t see the asymmetry issue. In fact, my male friends in college voted me “Best Smile” and presented me with an award (made of paper and drawn with markers, of course). That’s right, the girl with the crooked smile won a silly award.
Then I started noticing a lot of other people who has asymmetrical faces- one being the gorgeous Katy Perry. Sometimes when she smiles, her one eye shrinks and she gets the same look that I do in photos. I thought to myself, “I’m not alone- this even happens to pretty celebrities!”
I still don’t love my nose, I’ll always wish my legs were thicker, and I’d kill to have naturally long lashes, but I’ve realized that I should be happy I look the way I do. Sometimes are small imperfections are only noticed by us. And if they’re noticed by others, it’s usually in a good way! You never know when someone will fall for your crooked smile or be mesmerized by that weird birthmark you have. Trust me.