Ok, this post might sound like it’s a pretty obvious life lesson, but you’d be surprised at how many people are crippled by their appearance. People ask me all the time, “How do you have the guts to post photos of yourself on your blog?”. They think it’s crazy that I’m okay with hundreds of random people starting at me via their computer screen. The truth is- it’s pretty daunting, and I’d be lying if I said that it didn’t give me anxiety. But taking the step to blog by putting my life out there on display has actually helped me with my confidence, especially in terms of how I feel about what I wear and how I look in clothes. With that being said, I figured I’d write my tips on how to feel confident in your clothes.
Know Your Body
Not everyone wears the same size clothing for a reason- because we are all shaped differently. The key to looking good in clothing isn’t to starve yourself or stuff your bra, it’s wearing clothes that are meant for your body. For example, I’m a petite girl. I will always be short (5′ 2″) and thin- that’s just how my body shape is. It’s hard for me to shop in a lot of stores because all the pants and skirts are loose in the waist/hip area or drag on the ground. I’ve learned over the years what silhouettes, shapes, colors and brands look good on me and fit my petite shape. There are certain trends I just can’t pull off (like boyfriend jeans) because of my size, but on the other hand, there a ton of trends that look great on my shape (like peplum tops and dresses). Through trial and error, you will learn what looks good on you and what doesn’t. I find it helpful to look through magazines, Pinterest, other bloggers, and even celebrities. Find women who have a shape similar to yours and watch how they dress and mimic them. It’s the first step and a great source of inspiration!
Dress Based On What Looks Good
My biggest piece of advice is to wear what looks good on you, not what you want to look good on you. If you have a bit of a tummy, you should stay away from tight fabrics or crop tops- even if you love them and think they look great on the rack or the model. Be realistic. I see things in stores, magazines and blogs all the time that I just love, but I know it wouldn’t fit my body (or I actually try it on and then realize that indeed it does not work for me). You have to accept this and move on. No one looks good in everything. Don’t get caught up in trends or what is socially acceptable- style is about embracing yourself.
Wear Clothes With Confidence
Let me be honest with you here. I hate people looking at me. I always worry that girls are calling me anorexic and that guys are talking about how skinny my legs are. But I’ve learned the best way to feel confident is to “fake it until you make it”. I wear clothes that I love, so I enjoy the way they fit and look and that makes me happy. If you love the things you put on yourself, you’ll love yourself for wearing them! Act like you own the room. If people stare- let them stare! If they don’t even look, then they clearly aren’t paying enough attention. 😉
Taking outfit photos for my fashion posts isn’t a glamorous photoshoot. I’m so awkward at posing, I never know what to do with my hands, and sometimes my clothes look wrinkled or a bra strap shows through. But as long as I flash a smile and feel good about what I’m wearing, that’s all that matters. The amazing, sweet comments I get on my blog has increased my confidence so much. I never used to be a hat girl, for example. Then I posted some photos wearing new winter hats I received and it made me want to wear them more. Now I’m officially a girl who likes wearing hats! Who knew?
The bottom line is that feeling good about how you look in clothes takes a bit of practice. What are your tips for feeling better about how you look in clothes?